you’ll discover when it’s better to plan like an optimist or a pessimist, whether calming yourself down can fight fear and venting can quench

Trying to suppress my intrusive thoughts, feelings, and urges—or distract myself from them altogether—had the opposite effect. It fueled their fire.

A similar chain of events, however, can be observed in obsessive-compulsive cases in which the patient fights the ideas which haunt him.15 Thereby, however, he increases their power to disturb him, since pressure precipitates counterpressure. Again the symptom is reinforced! On the other hand, as soon as the patient stops fighting his obsessions an