Once you get the hang of being with yourself, being with your own unknowingness, you realize that it’s not really difficult, after all. It’s a process of relaxation, not a process of struggle. But to be very open and intimate with another human being, that’s not so easy, at least initially. To do so requires a depth of insight and a deep willingnes

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Committing to individuation helps us fulfill our unique pattern. When you do so, you remain open—to love, to criticism, to being wrong, to suffering, to joy. You feel your feelings. You admit your weaknesses but claim your strengths. You stand up for yourself and your truth, but you don’t remain in a defensive crouch longer than needed. We all know

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