Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom, by Don Miguel Ruiz, is “Do not take anything personally.” So whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally. Nothing other people do is because of you. It’s because of themselves. All people live in their own dream and their own mind. Even when words seem personal, such as a direct

Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin by Anne Katherine.

Feeling taken advantage of, frustrated, irritated, annoyed, and bitter is the result of the resentment we feel when we don’t set limits. Being resentful impacts the way we deal with people. It doesn’t allow us to be our best selves in our relationships. It breeds conflict. It makes us paranoid. It puts up a wall. Long-term resentment affects how we

Overwhelmed Kim sought therapy because she was feeling chronically

When someone violates your boundary, you can Restate or refresh it Reduce your interactions with that person Issue an ultimatum Accept it and let go of the relationship

Of course, terminating a relationship isn’t easy, so put a healthy plan in place to care for yourself through the process. Ending a relationship isn’t a sign that you no longer care about the other person. It’s an indicator of self-love, self-care, healthy boundaries, bravery, and your desire to be well.

you experience any of the above, know that the damage wasn’t caused by your boundary. The relationship was already unhealthy, and your boundary brought to the surface the issues that needed to be addressed. Setting limits won’t disrupt a healthy relationship.

Healthy boundaries include statements and actions that promote what you want in a relationship. When you set a boundary, it’s your job to reinforce it.

Some ultimatums are harder, such as those that will lead you to terminate a relationship or cut someone off. Before cutting someone off, however, consider this: Have I set any boundaries? What are some possible ways that the other person might respond to my boundaries? Is the other person aware of my issues with them? Have I been harmed beyond repa