Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself

You’re Anxious About Future Interactions After a Boundary Has Been Set The fear is, “Things will be awkward between us after this.” Well, declaring a fear makes it so. If you state that you’ll behave awkwardly during

Loaning money to people because you feel obligated or when you don’t have the funds to do so

We Feel We Can’t Tolerate the Discomfort of Setting Boundaries Setting limits is uncomfortable, and that discomfort is enough for most of us to shy away from setting them. So we stay silent. We can’t tolerate the discomfort of having what we assume will be difficult conversations

When someone violates your boundary, you can Restate or refresh it Reduce your interactions with that person Issue an ultimatum Accept it and let go of the relationship

Anger toward others looks like blaming without personal accountability, adult tantrums (yelling, cursing, rage, crying fits, breaking things, verbal abuse), or an overall apathetic disposition toward others.

“You can disagree without being mean or rude.”

Boundaries are not unspoken rules.

Listening to people complain about the same things over and

Simply put, relationships without boundaries are dysfunctional, unreasonable, and hard to manage. They operate mostly based on the assumption that something “magical” will happen to turn it all around. But hoping that our relationships will repair themselves out of nowhere is a long shot at best.

You Feel Powerless (and Not Sure That Boundaries Will Help) You attend to every problem except the lack of healthy boundaries. You assume that even if you set one, people won’t listen. You think about the worst-case scenario and become consumed with thoughts about how establishing a boundary will never help. But