Save Your Marriage Alone

So we need to make sure we do this healing process as quickly as possible.

That means you effortlessly become the version of you that your spouse fell in love with. Confident, easy to be around, and more efficient in coping with stress.

If our Unprocessed Emotional Tensions go unattended, we’ll end up in the same situation. We'll re-cause the same problems in the relationship because we didn't change the roots of how we add to it. What we need is genuine healing that eliminates your insecurities. Not by trying to think or affirm your way out of your emotions, but by rewiring how t

This makes our spouse feel we’re angry at them. That makes them defensive, and starts creating resentments and feelings of unfairness... which inevitably grow into Thorns. Stoicism: A deep seated fear and inability to connect with our emotions (may feel like a persistent sense of apathy). This makes the spouse feel alone and unsupported, because th

Well, if your Unprocessed Emotional Tension was driving the car, then it’s not your fault for crashing. Unprocessed Emotional Tension are the fears, traumas, insecurities, and negative emotions we accumulate over a lifetime... And when we stack these tensions on top of our stress and responsibilities, it can manifest in many ways: Distress: Being s

If we’re brutally honest for a moment and we observe the roots of the problems in the relationship... you’ll be at the center as either the person who caused it, or the person who didn’t stop it.

Take a minute now to identify what you think your spouse’s Prime Directive quadrant is and write it down on a piece of paper. (If you’re unsure between them, pick the two that most control their behavior - they

What we need to know to be able to fix any marriage is: Their Prime Directives (the needs that, once fulfilled, make them fall in love) Their Thorns (the hurts that are leading to their resentment) Their Fears (the real motivations why they feel they need to walk away) Their Beliefs (about you, the relationship, and if applicable, the affair partne