Marriage is about small acts of kindness that bond you over a lifetime. It’s quietly romantic. He makes her tea. She goes to the doctor appointment with him. They listen to each other’s daily trivia. They put up with each other’s quirks. They’re there for each other.

The beautiful thing is, there is so much more depth that can occur when we learn how to be in relationship as a spiritual practice—and over time, the gifts we receive are well beyond the chemical cocktail of pleasure and excitement we feel in the beginning. Part of aligning yourself for the type of relationship you desire is having a clear and

The deep happiness that marriage can bring, then, lies on the far side of sacrificial service in the power of the Spirit. That is, you only discover your own happiness after each of you has put the happiness of your spouse ahead of your own, in a sustained way, in response to what Jesus has done for you. Some will ask, “If I put the happiness of my