Romance: a function of privatization in Domination culture

while having a romantic partner is not a necessity for everyone, having a community is. “I truly believe that hyper-individualism, which is deeply rooted in capitalism, does so much work to trick us into believing that we should feel like we can do everything in life on our own,” maya says, adding that being in a relationship has made them so much... See more
i-D • Unpacking our generational fear of codependency
“It’s not singlehood, dear friend, that hurts; it’s not casual sex, the fluidity of our bonds, nor their ephemeral nature that causes pain.” Rather, it’s the way that power operates in relationships. Desire isn’t a spontaneous, apolitical passion; it’s shaped by the world around us, and by what we’ve been taught to value. Romance operates like a... See more
Hannah Giorgis • Why Does Romance Now Feel Like Work?
modernity tells us kids are a luxury. dating is a luxury. relationality is luxury. you have the earn it. the individual has to earn. once they are rich, hot, smart, mature enough, they won't harm their partner. the poor, ugly, and god forbid "codependent" should stay home
yatharth ༺༒༻x.comCut off from wider networks of care, relationship work begins to look like the solution for all the alienation we may feel under capitalism.