Rather, to trust ourselves is an act of faith; it is knowing that although the road is difficult and full of detours, we have the strength to cope. It

into every single detail and adjusted your behavior to fit accordingly.

You carefully watched what behaviors were rewarded by your caregivers and which were rejected, who was praised and who ignored. You unconsciously tuned

Mentally reviewing how the two of you met to ascertain if you had the right kinds of feelings toward your partner Ruminating on your feelings for your partner or analyzing if you have the right feelings in your relationship

Checking to see how you feel during sex to test whether or not you are in love/attracted/aroused enough

Checking your partner’s physical appearance, or any other form of compatibility, to test whether or not it is enough for you to stay attracted

Avoiding statements of commitment for fear of not being 100 percent certain

Avoiding intimacy for fear of not being aroused enough

part, we’re not even aware that