Recognise the point of giving advice and you can do it better | Psyche Ideas

Put Yourself in the Shoes of Others. Considering the point of view or experience of other people is one of the most powerful ways to facilitate better decisions.

The old habit you’re breaking is your jumping into helpful, action mode. You’re giving the solution, you’re providing the answer, you’re adding something to your to-do list. You’re assuming you know what the request is, even though the request hasn’t been clearly made.

And yet—sometimes the urge to solve the problem or give advice is almost overwhelming. This is definitely a self-management moment. You’re

Another crucial question is, Do I produce results as a decision maker or as an adviser? A great many people perform best as advisers but cannot take the burden and pressure of making the decision. A good many other people, by contrast, need an adviser to force themselves to think; then they can make decisions and act on them with speed, self-confid

I always thought I was helping people by offering my advice freely. Now I understand that advice is seen as an effort to control unless it is desired by the other person.