Radical Alignment: How to Have Game-Changing Conversations That Will Transform Your Business and Your Life

At home, poor communication often leads to unnecessary conflict that destabilizes our relationships and turns sources of support into sources of anguish. When we are in regular conflict with our partner, we might

The steps involve simply asking yourself to clarify your own intentions (Why are you having this conversation? What do you want to get out of it?), concerns (What issues are you likely to get stuck on? What objections might the other person raise that you can think through in advance? Are there any behaviors to watch out for and plan for?), boundar

Finally, ask the big question. How safe do you feel in this team or this relationship? If in a work

The goal of the conversation is to create a full and complete understanding of each other—this does not mean you agree with all that is said, only that you truly hear it.

Often during this section, easy fixes for a concern emerge—agreements, rules, budgetary triggers, and so forth—that could mitigate or eliminate the concern. This is wonderful, but for now keep it to yourself, perhaps by jotting down a quick note. The All-In Method (AIM) is not for problem solving but for information sharing, and suggesting an agree

Esther Perel, a couple’s therapist, once told us that if we stayed together for a long time, we would have more than one relationship with each other, and we’d have to be prepared to allow our relationship to evolve.

Intentions: Why are you seeking coaching now? Why are we talking today? Why have you chosen to talk with me in particular; are there other coaches you’ve spoken with, or is there something about my work in particular you’re interested in? What problems are you facing that you’d like to fix? Concerns: What challenges or obstacles do you see in the w

Dalai Lama says, “Anger may seem to be a source of energy, but it’s blind. It causes us to lose our restraint. It may stir courage, but again it’s blind courage.”

Not every project needs to check all the boxes, but reviewing his intentions helps him be, well, intentional about the work he takes on and, therefore, creates better outcomes for his clients and his projects. His intentions are in two blocks: outcomes and compensation. Outcomes: Better collaboration (between humans doing good in the world) Increas

Sticking to a single topic and agenda is usually what creates forward momentum. But topic creep can also indicate that the topic wasn’t properly framed in the first place or that there is misunderstanding or emotional misalignment.