The other things that helped me guess were the fact that as I was walking into the refugee camp that day we had to kick out of the way many empty tear gas grenades which had been fired into the camp the night before because there had been a riot in this refugee camp.

And sadly, on the side of each of these empty tear gas grenades was written, made

And for each item on the list, then, that I saw that I had been hiding parts of myself out of fear of somebody might saying this back to me, for every one of the messages, I practiced sensing, guessing, what that person might be feeling and needing, if they said that to me.

so if they said something to me and then I didn't like it and they said back