Ultimately, pleasure activism is us learning to make justice and liberation the most pleasurable experiences we can have on this planet.

can get a ton of pleasure from precision, rigor, and discipline (those who have experienced me as a teacher may have an inkling of this).

And we need more tolerance. If you want to break through to the multi-orgasmic level, you have to be willing to kind of push through something that feels like discomfort the first few times. You’re like, “Can I get there?” And you’re like “yes, I can.” It’s just like, if you do, then something else is going to become possible.

We are in a time of fertile ground for learning how we align our pleasures with our values, decolonizing our bodies and longings, and getting into a practice of saying an orgasmic yes together, deriving our collective power from our felt sense of pleasure.

I imagine there have been periods in my ancestry when gender was held very differently, maybe didn’t matter so much, or was less binary. And I imagine there will be a future with a multitude of widely known and understood genders. In this moment, I get to be part of the expansion of possible genders that can live and love safely on this planet.

love sex and drugs. I have an addictive personality, a gift and learning edge I inherited from my paternal grandmother, so I’ve learned to only engage those activities in substances I can moderate. Except sugar—so far that one tends to be all or nothing.

That’s what we took from Audre Lorde’s words: how do we live, love, suck, fuck, and liberate ourselves? How come we’re not talking about sex or desire anymore in relationship to liberation? And Audre Lorde was all about it, in a positive, consensual, erotic, fully embodied way. With cancer, without cancer, with physical disability, with different w

the joy and celebration of being miraculous. So rather than encouraging moderation over and over, I want to ask you to relinquish your own longing for excess and to stay mindful of your relationship to enough. How much sex would be enough? How high would be high enough? How much love would feel like enough? Can you imagine being healed enough? Happ

And that deep and irreplaceable knowledge of my capacity for joy comes to demand from all of my life that it be lived within the knowledge that such satisfaction is possible, and does not have to be called marriage, nor god, nor an a