Separate the “I” from the inner critic.

“Self-discipline” is an umbrella term we use to describe an extremely wide diversity of motivations that result in consistent action.

Compassionately see your inner critic’s motives.

Yirah also includes a sense of awe. Awe has an element of fear in it—we humbly fear the greatness and grandness of what is before us—but awe encompasses much more than fear: It has elements of reverence, appreciation, and being uplifted as well.

unconsciously using the hiding strategy of overcomplicating—adding element after element to her creation so that she never had to finish and put her work out into the world. Usually when we’re using this strategy, we’re convinced all the complications and additions are essential.

Here are the hiding strategies we explored in this chapter: Limiting stories about sequencing Designing at the whiteboard Overcomplicating Endless polishing Collecting/curating what others have to say instead of sharing your own perspective Skipping over your own story Getting more and more education, training, certifications (or doing endless

The tools I’ve presented here are tools to keep using, again and again, as you continually stretch into playing bigger.

What feedback do I need to incorporate in order to be effective in reaching my aims? And what feedback really won’t impact my effectiveness and is okay to ignore?

1. Set “gift-goals,” not “should-goals.” 2. Find champions and sources of accountability. 3. See yourself in partnership with a larger force. 4. Create a plan based on your unique strengths and resources. 5. Make it the default. 6. Compassionately investigate when you get stuck.