Playing Big

take up our small piece of the transition team’s work, sharing our ideas, our voices, our callings in a way that is authentic to us. By so doing, we’ll create a more balanced, sane culture, one reflective of both men’s and women’s voices.

believe that when women play bigger, they change the world for the better, and—more precisely—they bring forward what is missing.

The tools I’ve presented here are tools to keep using, again and again, as you continually stretch into playing bigger.

if you don’t feel “finished” yet with this work, know that that’s just where you should be.

trust that there is always a good and real reason for our inaction.

“Honey, what’s going on? Why are you on the couch?” and listen to the answer.

1. Set “gift-goals,” not “should-goals.” 2. Find champions and sources of accountability. 3. See yourself in partnership with a larger force. 4. Create a plan based on your unique strengths and resources. 5. Make it the default. 6. Compassionately investigate when you get stuck.

Ways to Let It Be Easy

Neuroscientists now know there is no “executive” part of the brain that has absolute authority over the others. Various parts of the brain with different priorities and roles often fire simultaneously, and which part wins out depends on our innate biology and the specifics of the circumstances, not on an aspect of character called “self-discipline”