Platonic: How Understanding Your Attachment Style Can Help You Make and Keep Friends

the spark is real. So trust yourself when you meet someone who feels familiar or comfortable, when there’s chemistry, when you sense you might be experiencing a kindred spirit. Following up with these promising seeds of connection will lift your chances of finding the deep friendships you are looking for.

We are left with the sense that these villains need only to confront their scars for their core of goodness to be unleashed.

Anxious people’s suppressed needs don’t disappear. Anxious people stew, building resentment for their unmet needs,

M. Scott Peck, author of The Different Drum: Community Making and Peace, defines “community,” as a group of people “who have learned how to communicate honestly with each other, whose relationships go deeper than their masks of composure, and who have developed some significant commitment to ‘rejoice together, mourn together,’ and to ‘delight in ea

avoidants are shame-prone.

Then, take initiative by inviting your favorite person in the group to get smoothies.

If we want to make and keep friends, we need to swim against the tides of disconnection that have been gradually contaminating us for centuries.

the more positively we feel about ourselves, the more likely we are to assume others like us. And the more unworthy we feel, the more likely we are to underestimate how much others like us.

When I meet a new group of people, my inclination is to find the few I can be comfortable with and forget the rest.

Despite connection being a fundamental value of our species, it is not a fundamental value of Western society.