the real struggle of perfectionism isn’t the impossibility of perfection — it’s the constant feeling of failure.

I’ve long lived as if there’s a silent critic in the corner, watching and grading me. Is my kitchen clean? Do my pants fit? Did I complete everything on my to-do list? Did I journal, meditate, exercise? Did I try hard enough? Did I make... See more

‘Dailyish’ is a much more resilient rule: it’s less of a high-wire act, where one mistake could end everything. But emotionally speaking, it’s an unsettling rule to follow – because doing something dailyish requires sacrificing your fantasies of perfection in favor of the uncomfortable experience of making concrete, imperfect progress, here and

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