“Always remember that to argue, and win, is to break down the reality of the person you are arguing against. It is painful to lose your reality, so be kind, even if you are right.”
-Haruki Murakami
That moment when you realize every conversation has become a debate you didn't sign up for, and somehow you're losing even when you're winning.
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nofilterphilosophyinstagram.comMost people argue to win, not to learn. As Julia Galef so aptly puts it: people often act like soldiers rather than scouts. Soldiers are on the intellectual attack, looking to defeat the people who differ from them. Victory is the operative emotion. Scouts, meanwhile, are like intellectual explorers, slowly trying to map the terrain with others.... See more