‘People feel they don’t owe anyone anything’: the rise in ‘flaking’ out of social plans
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‘People feel they don’t owe anyone anything’: the rise in ‘flaking’ out of social plans
When you feel as if your body is ineffective, it sometimes seems easier to just cancel dates and not pursue advances in employment.
Rachel Schneider • Making Sense: A Guide to Sensory Issues
Many young people concerned with burnout don’t have kids. But their motivations are an extension of the same impulse behind concerted parenting—they, too, feel like participants in a pseudo-meritocratic rat race, and they’re terrified of losing status, class, or future income. Young YouTube stars work to exhaustion to meet the expectations of an al... See more
Derek Thompson • Three Theories for Why You Have No Time
We live less and less of our lives in the same temporal grooves as one another. The unbridled reign of this individualist ethos, fuelled by the demands of the market economy, has overwhelmed our traditional ways of organising time, meaning that the hours in which we rest, work and socialise are becoming ever more uncoordinated. It’s harder than eve
... See moreOliver Burkeman • Four Thousand Weeks
Managing your social life requires self-knowledge: Will you be in the mood next week? Will they be mad if you cancel? Will you have fun tonight even though you’re dragging your feet? The trick to answering these questions, I’m finding, is not technology or mind-reading or asking for surpluses of empathy. It’s to stop being a huge baby.
Haley Nahman • #95: Are you baby? A litmus test
humans, we are hard-wired to avoid discomfort. We stop ourselves from checking our bank accounts when we know we’ve overspent, we avoid difficult conversations that we don’t want to have, and more problematically, we delay booking that doctor’s appointment, to avoid receiving bad news about our health.
Steven Bartlett • The Diary of a CEO: The 33 Laws of Business and Life
Myself and people my age have been trained under the illusion that we can effectively eliminate any and all friction from our lives. We can work from home, Amazon prime everything we need, swipe through a limitless array of mediocre dates, text our therapist, and have a person go to the grocery store for us when we don’t feel like it, all while con
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