It begins to feel as though you’re failing at life, in some indistinct way, if you’re not treating your time off as an investment in your future. Sometimes this pressure takes the form of the explicit argument that you ought to think of your leisure hours as an opportunity to become a better worker (“Relax! You’ll Be More Productive,” reads the... See more

I’ve been this way since long before Sunny. I have a well-documented record-keeping compulsion and an inherited belief that in order to truly thrive I have to reject what comes naturally. I still operate like that decently often—sublimating what feels right and seamless for the sake of serving some higher goal. I’m thinking of silly examples, like... See more