Now that I'm pregnant, my husband ignores me: Bad Advice Friday

‘The notion that mothers have choice…

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But after a few months of marriage, his sharp mind and caustic humor began to feel like a weapon directed at her. When Phil would comment on the way she was driving or putting away the dishes, she would feel wounded and humiliated. Everything inside her would begin collapsing into the sense that she was totally incompetent. Often her anger at being

The parental fallacy does not help anyone grow down. It pulls us away from the acorn and back to Mom and Dad, who may already be dead and gone though we remain stuck with their effects. I am then a mere effect myself, a result of their causes. For all our heroic individualism America still clings to a mother-based developmental psychology that stat

I wanted the end of pregnancy to be soothing, but instead my emotions are like snooker balls, cracking off one another with the slightest provocation

WHEN I LOOK BACK AND think about my own reaction to impending motherhood, I can’t help but see that my extreme distress was informed by anxiety that I wouldn’t be able to be a mother and be happy at the same time. Though my mother had three children, something about dealing with them consistently had been anathema to her core identity, as if she we