If you wish to deal with your feelings of insecurity there are four facts that you must study well and understand. First, it is futile to ease your insecurity feelings by trying to change things outside of you. Your efforts may be successful, though mostly they are not. They may bring some relief, but the relief will be short-lived. So it is not

These moments feel uncomfortable initially, but something interesting happens: your body starts telling you before your brain does that peace exists where performance used to live. Each time you choose authenticity over accommodation, you're rewiring your stress responses. The nervous system learns that social disapproval isn't existential threat.

We built walls in a time when we thought that anxiety itself was a threat to life, but the reality is we can both tolerate and learn from it. We can live with not being liked, we can survive being misunderstood, we can make mistakes, we can feel bad. Having released the goal of avoiding discomfort as much as humanly possible and by any and all