No, you don't owe me a favor

My guess is that you know exactly those same things about your friends. You do not sit back and keep track of how they have wronged you or injured you. There is no ledger of what they have done wrong to you. You love them because you trust the common values you share in your hearts. As long as that is true, the actions do not matter. Friendship is

In this and the following instance, the person would in fact be willing to carry out the favor. Nevertheless, since his present circumstances prevent him from doing so, he should not make a gesture that will cause his friend to be grateful to him when in fact there is no reason for him to be.

It is not possible to receive charity from a friend.”

Il y a trois types de bienfaiteurs, dit ailleurs Marc Aurèle : celui qui considère ouvertement son obligé comme son débiteur; celui qui se contente de penser cela et qui sait en tout cas ce qu'il a fait pour l'autre; enfin celui qui ne sait pas ce qu'il a fait (V,6,3) :

A small loan creates a debtor; a large one creates an enemy. 12 “What? Don’t favors lead to friendships?” They do if one is able to exercise some choice as to who will receive them—if they are investments and not merely largesse. So, since you are just beginning to make your own decisions, take the philosophers’ advice: what matters is not the favo