No More Mr. Nice Guy

Following this rule of thumb, they simply ask themselves, “How would a healthy male handle this situation?”

Nevertheless, these men learned to hide their flaws and tried to become what they believed others wanted them to be. These factors indicate that at some point in their early lives, their circumstances were less than ideal.

If he grew up with an angry, demeaning, or controlling parent, he may choose a partner with similar traits.

First, the mother must know how to give enough to meet the child’s needs without creating dependency. She must also know how to get her own needs met so she is not tempted to use her son to fill the void.

independent person would want them, they settle for a diamond in the rough. They tend to pick partners who have had troubled childhoods, are sexual abuse survivors, have had a string of bad relationships, are depressed, are having money problems, are overweight, or are struggling single moms.

At times, like most Nice Guys, I’m “a slow learner and a quick forgetter.”

Nice Guys caretake for a number of reasons, none of them having anything to do with love. For them, even the most innocuous and subtle act often has some string attached. Nice Guys give in the ways they would like others to give to them.

They won’t be able to handle the increased expectations ■They will lose control over their lives ■They will do something to mess up everything

often attracted to people and situations that need fixing. This behavior is often the result of the Nice Guy’s childhood conditioning, his need to look good, or his quest for approval.