No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model

Our parts, especially when they are burdened, forget our field or wave state of connectedness and can make us forget too. As

In those higher realms you can access a lot of pure Self, which feels great—even though it doesn’t heal anything and can make exiles feel even more abandoned.

Sometimes it takes you showing up in Self repeatedly and apologizing to them to regain their trust.

Systems thinking focuses on the ways members of a system relate to one another.

“When people asked me if I was ready for my life to change, I don’t think I really understood what they meant. It wasn’t just that strangers would know who I was. It was this other thing that started to happen to me: when I looked in their eyes, sometimes, there was a little voice in my head wondering, Would you still be so excited to meet me if yo

all of us are born with many sub-minds that are constantly interacting inside of us. This is in general what we call thinking, because the parts are talking to each other and to you constantly about things you have to do or debating the best course of action, and so on.

Systems of parts and people tend to polarize, form protective alliances, and exclude or cut off from each other whenever they are traumatized and lack effective leadership.

Additionally, in IFS, when parts do take over, we don’t shame them. Instead, we get curious and use the part’s impulse as a trailhead to find what is driving it that needs to be healed.

This is because parts, like people, fight back against being shamed or exiled.