Netflix/Adolescence and Gottman Emotion Coaching

• Regulate your own emotions:“Our ability to self-regulate might have the biggest impact on who our child turns out to be compared to anything else we do”


• Connect with your kids


• Coach instead of punishing

Start with what’s going on for you. Are you angry? Is that because you’re afraid? Or insecure? Maybe you’re just tired and feeling worn down. Or maybe your child’s behavior is reminding you of things in your life that were traumatizing, such as an accident. Take a moment to open up to what you’re feeling with curiosity and without harsh judgment. I

Start with the simplicity of noticing sad, mad, or glad. From there, explore the nuances and layers of feelings.

Since emotional regulation is the critical issue in managing the effects of trauma and neglect, it would make an enormous difference if teachers, army sergeants, foster parents, and mental health professionals were thoroughly schooled in emotional-regulation techniques.