the best affirmations are simply bringing to mind the things that are most important to you and letting those thoughts soak through you.

Review your expectations regularly, take a moment to set expectations for those around you, and then simply take every life moment as it comes, ready for anything. If you do that, you’ll be as prepared as you’ll ever need to be if something doesn’t go as well as you wanted it to. And you’ll spend less time dealing with any negative emotional

“Now I just expect people to do stupid shit. It makes it completely bearable when they do.” And while that’s pretty funny, it’s really true. Setting expectations in yourself really works.

Setting your own expectations and setting expectations within others around you can be a very effective way to reduce the emotional fallout of future negative events. I’ve even used this practice with my son in preparation for a long car ride to go see his grandparents. “It’s gonna be a really long time in the car, buddy,” I would say. “What things

While it’s true that your Expectation/Preference is primarily set automatically in relation to things on your {self} map, you can step in and purposefully adjust your expectations if you need to. This loosens the effect a negative event may have on you when something does eventually go wrong.

every action and reaction we have as humans, regardless of age, is designed to defend or perpetuate {self}.

any answer that your mind formulates to answer the question “who am I?” or “What makes me me?,” or to borrow from Rainn again, “What are the 5 risks you haven’t had the guts to take yet?” … all those answers… that is your mind’s {self}. They are all ultimately answers to the question “who am I.” Answer the “who am I” question differently a hundred

mind’s {self} concept

There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow men. True nobility lies in being superior to your former self. —Ernest Hemingway