Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus

A man doesn’t know that she will appreciate it if he just listens.

when a woman offers unsolicited advice or tries to “help” a man, she has no idea of how critical and unloving she may sound to him.

To practice listening without offering any invalidating comments or solutions is, however, a big step.

a man wants to make improvements when he feels he is being approached as the solution to a problem rather than as the problem itself.

She wants empathy, but he thinks she wants solutions.

had been a fair-weather friend. As long as she was happy and nice, I loved back. But if she was unhappy or upset, I would feel blamed and then argue or distance myself.

1. A man tries to change a woman’s feelings when she is upset by becoming Mr. Fix-It and offering solutions to her problems that invalidate her feelings. 2. A woman tries to change a man’s behavior when he makes mistakes by becoming the home-improvement committee and offering unsolicited advice or criticism.

He feels better by solving problems while she feels better by talking about problems.

men pride themselves on being experts, especially when it comes to fixing mechanical things, getting places, or solving problems.