Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus

A man doesn’t know that she will appreciate it if he just listens.

He feels better by solving problems while she feels better by talking about problems.

a man wants to make improvements when he feels he is being approached as the solution to a problem rather than as the problem itself.

To practice listening without offering any invalidating comments or solutions is, however, a big step.

When a man feels that a woman is not trying to improve him, he is much more likely to ask for her feedback and advice.

1. A man tries to change a woman’s feelings when she is upset by becoming Mr. Fix-It and offering solutions to her problems that invalidate her feelings. 2. A woman tries to change a man’s behavior when he makes mistakes by becoming the home-improvement committee and offering unsolicited advice or criticism.

men pride themselves on being experts, especially when it comes to fixing mechanical things, getting places, or solving problems.

how important it was just to listen without offering solutions.

when a woman offers unsolicited advice or tries to “help” a man, she has no idea of how critical and unloving she may sound to him.