Mating in Captivity
The Ethical Slut, Second Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Adventures
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I believe that longing, waiting, and yearning are fundamental elements of desire that can be generated with forethought, even in long-term relationships.
Esther Perel • Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
intimacy comes with a growing concern for the well-being of the other person, which includes a fear of hurting her. But sexual excitement requires the capacity not to worry, and the pursuit of pleasure demands a degree of selfishness. Some people can’t allow themselves this selfishness, because they’re too absorbed with the well-being of the belove... See more
Esther Perel • Mating in Captivity
our willingness to engage that mystery keeps desire alive.
Esther Perel • Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
Family life flourishes in an atmosphere of comfort and consistency. Yet eroticism resides in unpredictability, spontaneity, and risk.