Masochism
This was well-known to the founding giants of psychology like Freud, Jung, and Lacan. Freud called it “psychic masochism,” Jung recognized it as “the Shadow,” and Lacan called it jouissance—pleasure that's so intense we repress it. All
Carolyn Elliott • Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power (A method for getting what you want by getting off on what you don't)
identification and bear the stamp of powerful maternal transferences. These processes can, on the one hand, be one of the pillars of an unusually deep and satisfying intimacy. On the other hand, the kinds of identification upon which this closeness is grounded can lead to a collapse of the separation and psychological distance required to sustain e
... See moreMichael J. Bader • Arousal
The slaves ask for a master, seek one out, and enjoy it. The master gets to be aggressively self-serving without a pang of conscience. Guilt is overcome, and sexual pleasure is the reward.
Michael J. Bader • Arousal
