Love Yourself: The First Step to a Successful Relationship

Another example of where core self-esteem is critical is in my professional life, whether as a public speaker, a college professor, or a therapist. In all these positions, I expose myself to the criticism of others. If I didn’t have a well-established sense of self-esteem in those parts of my self-identity, I wouldn’t be able to succeed. Some peopl

I was able to break out of giving women the power when I started to realize that what I thought was rejection wasn’t really rejection at all.

Another reason parents have so much power in influencing a child’s self-esteem is that it’s critical to a child to obtain their parents’ validation and love. This is because a child needs a sense of security, and with their parents’ love and validation, they will feel secure. Children try to get their parents’ approval by trying to meet their paren

I was one of those parents rooting for their kids from the sidelines. After a match, if they lost, they would be very self-critical of how they played. Instead of chiming in and telling them how badly they played, I told them to give themselves a break. I would say things like, “Well at least you gave it your best shot. After all, you’re only fourt

A relationship where no risk is taken may look stable or even ideal from the outside looking in, but when viewed from behind closed doors there exists little emotional or sexual intimacy. Sexual frequency is usually infrequent.

When I encounter a client who is confused about what is the best path to take and he is impatient with his indecision, I tell him that he needs to do more emotional research. Usually people who are on the fence about a decision make a pro and con list, either in their heads or on a piece of paper. This is an intellectual exercise that doesn’t help

When skiers point their skis down the mountain and gravity starts to pull them down faster and faster, they are experiencing the rush of skiing. They are “letting go to the mountain” as opposed to resisting and fighting the pull of gravity. Resistance is stressful, exhausting, and not a lot fun. What allows skiers to let go is the confidence that w

I don’t understand how you can hate a person and love them at the same time. You can’t love only a part of someone. You have to love the whole person, not just a part of them if you live with them 24/7. When you love someone, you need to be able to accept both their assets and their liabilities.

When a person moves out of their comfort zone, they are stepping into a whole new world, and there is a tendency to hang on to the old, even though it’s causing psychological difficulty.