Love Yourself: The First Step to a Successful Relationship
In fact, I think setting boundaries is discouraged in our society.
Daniel Beaver • Love Yourself: The First Step to a Successful Relationship
The issue for individuals is their ability to establish these boundaries in their daily interactions with others. This becomes especially important in the context of an intimate relationship. Having the confidence that you can establish boundaries in your personal life is the key to falling in love. This confidence allows a person to have that sens
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So even though my parents tried to validate my self-esteem, I gave my peer group the power to take it away.
Daniel Beaver • Love Yourself: The First Step to a Successful Relationship
A common consequence later in life when a child’s self-esteem was connected to how they acted when they were growing up is that they become very defensive verbally when someone close to them has a problem with how they act. They take what that person has to say personally. This usually means that they get emotionally hurt, because to them, their si
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Whenever we give the power away to another adult for anything, it will breed contempt and resentment for that person and the relationship itself. It’s a no-win situation.
Daniel Beaver • Love Yourself: The First Step to a Successful Relationship
When I give a compliment and the receiver negates or discounts what I am telling them, I get upset with them. This sometimes occurs with my wife when I compliment her about the way she looks. I might say something like this, “Honey, you look so good tonight. I love the way you look.” She might reply with, “How can you say that? I am having such a b
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When it came to me, I could make do with less and I could get by with the least expensive item or experience. What kind of message did this type of behavior send to a potential lover? What it told her was that I didn’t really love myself. This would tend to make me attractive to co-dependent women, who wanted to take care of me just like my mother.
Daniel Beaver • Love Yourself: The First Step to a Successful Relationship
Taking care of yourself emotionally also means that you have created an emotional support system. This usually involves a network of friends who can meet some of their basic emotional needs, such as support or companionship.
Daniel Beaver • Love Yourself: The First Step to a Successful Relationship
A relationship where no risk is taken may look stable or even ideal from the outside looking in, but when viewed from behind closed doors there exists little emotional or sexual intimacy. Sexual frequency is usually infrequent.