To be reborn, you must die first. And this sure feels like death. I’m done downplaying what those I respect see in me.

If it scares me, there is magic on the other side. I cannot emphasize this enough. If there’s ever a rule for life, this is it. Look, any of us could fill a book with our fears and all the perfectly legitimate and beautifully crafted reasons for them. But they don’t serve us. Only stepping through fear does.

Here’s what I’ve learned about habits and patterns that don’t serve us. There is a moment of decision where two paths stretch out in front. One choice calls for the old familiar. The other, unknown. Magic lies in the unknown. Asking the right question is the most powerful tool I’ve found in choosing the path to magic. In that moment when I’m about

The first: life happens to me. This is the place we normally live from, especially as a victim. The second: life happens for me. This upends everything. You look for the good that life is giving you, including the lessons. The third: life happens through me. Where you flow with life and don’t even have to look for the good because you’re experienci

The thing is, when life just works for a while, you get used to it and you think it’ll stay that way. Recency bias. When things suck, when you’re deep in it, it seems like they will suck forever. You can’t imagine a way out.

if you loved yourself truly and deeply, would you limit your life to what you previously thought possible? Nope. You’d blow your own socks off.

Dear Kamal, I vow to love you fully and completely and deeply in every way, in all thoughts, in all actions, in all my desires, and my being. I vow to love you, Kamal. I sign and date it.

I shared my fear with him—what would people think? His response, something that I will never forget and will always be grateful for: “I don’t do a post now unless I’m worried about what people will think about me.”

Inhale: I love myself. Exhale: Breathe out what comes up. Inhale, exhale, inhale, exhale. Natural. The music flows.