Watch your mind sometime and you’ll realize that it’s always answering questions. Fear is an answer to what could go wrong. Pain is an answer to what’s missing. You’ll quickly realize that the mind naturally goes for the negative, not the light. So you must consciously ask yourself empowering questions. Ones that result in you making loving choices

The first: life happens to me. This is the place we normally live from, especially as a victim. The second: life happens for me. This upends everything. You look for the good that life is giving you, including the lessons. The third: life happens through me. Where you flow with life and don’t even have to look for the good because you’re experienci

To be reborn, you must die first. And this sure feels like death. I’m done downplaying what those I respect see in me.

Life rewards you more when you pay attention to its gifts. Cliché as this sounds, I’ve found it to be true. Our attention is like a spotlight in the darkness. What we focus on becomes our experience of reality. Simply put: what you expect, you receive.

If it scares me, there is magic on the other side. I cannot emphasize this enough. If there’s ever a rule for life, this is it. Look, any of us could fill a book with our fears and all the perfectly legitimate and beautifully crafted reasons for them. But they don’t serve us. Only stepping through fear does.

The thing is, when life just works for a while, you get used to it and you think it’ll stay that way. Recency bias. When things suck, when you’re deep in it, it seems like they will suck forever. You can’t imagine a way out.

Here we are, thinking that one needs to be in love with another to shine, to feel free and shout from the rooftops, but the most important person, the most important relationship we’ll ever have is waiting, is craving to be loved truly and deeply.

James Altucher, in one of his best blog posts, talks about how he stops negative thoughts in their tracks with a simple mind trick. “Not useful,” he tells himself. It’s a switch, a breaker of sorts, shifts the pattern of the fear.

If a painful memory arises, don’t fight it or try to push it away—you’re in quicksand. Struggle reinforces pain. Instead, go to love. Love for yourself. Feel it. If you have to fake it, fine. It’ll become real eventually. Feel the love for yourself as the memory ebbs and flows. That will take the power away.