Love Letters to the Girls Who Are Too Hard on Themselves

Be soft on yourself, be tender with your spirit. This isn’t easy, it’s work. It is absolutely work for me to look at myself, to look at my patterns and my habits and my ways of being. The work is the process; they are interchangeable. On the other side of this work, though, is freedom, lightness. After all, it’s lighter than you think.

The process of becoming yourself is not a corporate desk job, and it is not homework, and it is not an unticked box languishing on a to-do list. You do not have to treat your flaws like action items that must be systematically targeted and eliminated in order to receive a return on investment. You have no supervisor; you should not be punished when