Every day in my work I am confronted with the detailed realities that hide behind statistics. I see people who are such good friends that they cannot sustain being lovers. I see lovers who hold so tenaciously to the idea that sex must be spontaneous that they never have it at all. I see couples who view seduction as too much work, something they sh

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A commitment to an essential bond—an enduring “given” of mutuality—that weathers the stresses and crises of change. This bond is unconditional. If “someone else has come along” who is more attractive, more fun, “just right,” it will be taken only as information about the charms of the new person or the deficits of the present relationship. It will

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