love is an allowing
What if boundaries and borders are actually the only way people can love each other equally and freely? What if, without those boundaries, love becomes an act of humanitarian aid?
Christina Joyce Hauser • The Crane Wife: A Memoir in Essays
Some people aren’t ready for uninhibited love. If your lover is a person who has been abused in the past, he or she may need well-established boundaries in order to grow: You are allowed to say you’re angry, but not to shout it. Or, you are allowed to shout your anger, but not to touch your lover angrily. Boundaries provide a sense of safety, which
... See moreDavid Deida • Blue Truth: A Spiritual Guide to Life & Death and Love & Sex
The issue for individuals is their ability to establish these boundaries in their daily interactions with others. This becomes especially important in the context of an intimate relationship. Having the confidence that you can establish boundaries in your personal life is the key to falling in love. This confidence allows a person to have that sens
... See moreDaniel Beaver • Love Yourself: The First Step to a Successful Relationship
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Boundaries are not saying no.
Or making sure something doesn't happen.
Or distancing.
Or even letting yourself have wants in the face of others'.
A boundary is simply "If you do X, I will do Y."
Good boundaries:
- don't require anything from the other person
- are kind for the other person
- bring you closer emotionally (i.e. you find the per... See more