Love, Freedom, and Aloneness: On Relationships, Sex, Meditation, and Silence

In Kahlil Gibran’s The Prophet, Almustafa says: Let there be spaces in your togetherness. And let the winds of heavens dance between you. Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Love is the undercurrent of your being. It is already flowing, but there are many rocks, many layers of earth to be removed. That’s what I mean when I say learn the art of love. It is really not learning love but unlearning the ways of unlove.

Except for awareness, nothing changes a person, nothing at all. So don’t try to pretend. That which has not happened, has not happened. Understand it, and don’t try to pretend and don’t try to make others believe that it has happened, because nobody is going to lose in this deception except you.

Your blissfulness is with you whatever you are doing. It will enhance every activity, it will enrich every act that you do. Your love will have a totally different flavor. Now there will not be any hate hiding behind it; it will be simply love. There will not be even the expectation that something should be returned to you. You don’t need anything.

Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Love is the only freedom from attachment. When you love everything you are attached to nothing.

To think that you know your wife is very, very ungrateful. How can you know the woman? How can you know the man? They are processes, they are not things. The woman that you knew yesterday is not there today. So much water has gone down the Ganges; she is somebody else, totally different. Relate again, start again, don’t take it for granted.

On the path of love, get so dissolved that only the other becomes real and you become a shadow and by and by you completely disappear. On the path of love, God remains, you disappear; on the path of meditation, God disappears, you appear. But the total and the ultimate result is the same. A great synthesis happens.

When you say, “When I love someone it becomes an attachment,” you are saying you are not. So whatever you do goes wrong, because the doer is absent. The inner point of awareness is not there, so whatsoever you do goes wrong. First be, and then you can share your being. And that sharing will be love. Before that, whatsoever you do will become an att

In fact, only a person who is capable of being alone is capable of love. Lonely persons cannot love. Their need is so much that they cling—how can they love? Lonely persons cannot love, they can only exploit. Lonely persons pretend to love; deep down they want to get love. They don’t have it to give, they have nothing to give. Only a person who kno