Love, Freedom, and Aloneness: On Relationships, Sex, Meditation, and Silence

Beware. Whenever something goes wrong there are indications in your being. Sadness is an indicator, depression is an indicator. Joy, celebration, is also an indicator.

Because if love cannot help the other in transforming the animal energies into higher spiritual energies, then your love is not love—not worth calling love.

Nobody asks how to know whether he is happy or unhappy. Nobody has ever asked. When you are unhappy, you know; when you are happy, you know. Then it is an intrinsic value. You know it, you are born knowing it, so let that intrinsic indication be used and it will never falsify your life.

In fact, you can enjoy aloneness only if you can enjoy relationship. It is relationship that creates the need for aloneness, it is a rhythm. When you have moved in deep relationship with somebody, a great need arises to be alone. You start feeling spent, exhausted, tired—joyously tired, happily tired, but each excitement is exhausting. It was treme

Then sadness will start changing its form; it will become a silent joy, uncaused by anybody outside you. That will not be shallow happiness, which can be taken away very easily.

Sex is transcended not by your effort. It happens if you have lived it totally. So my suggestion is, drop all “anti” attitudes, antilife attitudes, and accept the facticity: sex is, so who are you to drop it? And who is trying to drop it? It is just the ego. Remember, sex creates the greatest problem for the ego.

Love knows nothing of duty. Duty is a burden, a formality. Love is a joy, a sharing; love is informal. The lover never feels that he has done enough; the lover always feels that more was possible. The lover never feels, “I have obliged the other.” On the contrary, he feels, “Because my love has been received, I am obliged. The other has obliged me

You may not commit suicide by taking poison or jumping from a cliff or by shooting yourself, but you can commit a suicide which is a very slow process, and that’s what happens. Very few people commit suicide suddenly. Others have decided for a slow suicide; gradually, slowly, slowly they die. But the tendency to be suicidal has become almost univer

Relationship is a mirror, and the purer the love is, the higher the love is, the better the mirror, the cleaner the mirror.