Love bombing, gaslighting, and the problem with pathologising dating talk
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Love bombing, gaslighting, and the problem with pathologising dating talk
As awful as all this is, the workarounds themselves are often delightful and clever, testaments to the wit and grace of marginalized communities. For example, sex-workers call themselves "accountants." Homophobia is called "cornucopia" and "LGBTQ" becomes "Leg Booty."
This creativity isn't limited to people I admire or agree with: anti-vaxers have a... See more
This creativity isn't limited to people I admire or agree with: anti-vaxers have a... See more
Cory Doctorow • Pluralistic: 11 Apr 2022 – Pluralistic: Daily links from Cory Doctorow
The negative side effects from this new way of living are too countless to list. We don’t have the patience for anything, let alone the slow unfolding of human emotion. Ask anyone on a dating app how that looks up close, how it plays out over time. Pundits lament that the global populace is enduring a plague of psychobabble that adds up to elaborat
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This has turned communicators of all kinds – from fashion influencers to public health specialists – into Kremlinologists who obsessively analyze the behavior of social media algorithms in the hopes of learning how to please them and (more importantly) how to avoid their punishments.
Hence algospeak. Social media users have learned the hard way that... See more
Hence algospeak. Social media users have learned the hard way that... See more
Cory Doctorow • Pluralistic: 11 Apr 2022 – Pluralistic: Daily links from Cory Doctorow
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On one hand, there is an importance in gaining clarity when you name certain things. On the other hand, there is a danger that you lose all nuance, that you’re basically trying to elevate your personal comments and personal experience by invoking the higher authority of psychobabble
Delia Cai • Esther Perel Thinks All This Amateur Therapy-Speak Is Just Making Us Lonelier
We make and invent words to describe the world around us. But we also change the world around us because of the language we use. If “intrusive thoughts” are just “random ideas that pop into our heads” rather than “an upsetting symptom of a debilitating condition”, then we see the behavior of the mentally ill as a personal lack of control. If mental
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