Love: All That Matters

Note that these human loves (affectionate love, friendship love, sexual love, and committed love) find inspiration in the people being loved—as we focus on them, something about them elicits the love. If a person is cute and sweet, he gives rise to affectionate love. If someone likes what you like, friendship love is a cinch. If a sexy, good-lookin

All the forms of human love we discussed—affectionate love, friendship love, sexual love, and committed love—are simply responses to an outside stimulus. They are not loves that act independently of the one being loved. We find a person of the opposite sex attractive; the potential for sexual love is birthed. We see someone’s innocence or kindness,

Many people can “fall” in love, but to sustain love across time requires self-confidence and self-respect. If I enjoy a fundamental sense of efficacy and worth, and if, as a consequence, I feel lovable as a human being, I have an emotional wealth within me that I can channel into loving.

Love is at the core two things. First, it is a matter of choice.

I think – in quite different terms, naturally – along the same lines, namely that love encompasses the experience of the possible transition from the pure randomness of chance to a state that has universal value.