Living in Liberation: Boundary Setting, Self Care and Social Change

you can’t control how they will respond. You can only choose how you want to respond to their response.

Maybe encouragement falls flat and that is a sign that the myth still looms large and it will more helpful to focus on countering it.

Preparing for battle makes us rigid, tense, and inflexible.

Rather than judge ourselves (or others) for the things we find difficult or are unskilled at, we can be aware of the things which challenge us and use them to help us grow.

free of judgment,

is impossible to redirect our attention until we are aware that doubts have taken over.

Reframing asks us not only to consider what we want, it asks us to envision possibilities and even strategies for obtaining our goals. This, (sometimes counter intuitively) can be scary and even painful.

Fear and reactivity can complicate identifying and communicating what we want or need.

Communication was framed as a way to manipulate and manage the world and the people in it, not as a way to understand or listen. Communication was placed in a combative context.