Living Beautifully: with Uncertainty and Change
Letting go of our cloud-like thoughts and emotions is by no means habitual at first. The thoughts and emotions may make it difficult for us to contact the openness of our minds, but they’re like old friends who have accompanied us for as long as we can remember, and we’re very resistant to saying good-bye. But each time you begin to meditate, you c
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It’s how we try to put solid ground under our feet in an ever-shifting world.
Pema Chodron • Living Beautifully: with Uncertainty and Change
We look at what we say and do based on a genuine trust in our basic goodness. We trust that we’re fundamentally openhearted and open-minded and that when we’re not confounded by our emotions, we know what will help and what will hurt.
Pema Chodron • Living Beautifully: with Uncertainty and Change
an emotion like anger that’s an automatic response lasts just ninety seconds from the moment it’s triggered until it runs its course. One and a half minutes, that’s all. When it lasts any longer, which it usually does, it’s because we’ve chosen to rekindle it.
Pema Chodron • Living Beautifully: with Uncertainty and Change
Emotions that run only 90 seconds, how long does the story of our habits go on ?Asana application:Recognizing sensations, notice the body reactions to a certain sensation, be with the sensation to see of creates bad habits in asana practice.
My teacher Dzigar Kongtrül calls shenpa the barometer of ego clinging, a gauge of our self-involvement and self-importance. Shenpa has a visceral quality associated with grasping or, conversely, pushing away. This is the feeling of I like, I want, I need and I don’t like, I don’t want, I don’t need, I want it to go away.
Pema Chodron • Living Beautifully: with Uncertainty and Change
this commitment protects us from falling into or chasing after unnecessary cravings, unnecessary aggression, and unnecessary indifference.
Pema Chodron • Living Beautifully: with Uncertainty and Change
When feelings of desire or craving arise, or the urge to speak or act out of aggression arises, “Do not act!” he warns. “Be silent, do not speak!” That’s the basic instruction of the first commitment: Don’t act, don’t speak.
Pema Chodron • Living Beautifully: with Uncertainty and Change
When you come from the view that you’re fundamentally good rather than fundamentally flawed, as you see yourself speak or act out, as you see yourself repress, you will have a growing understanding that you’re not a bad person who needs to shape up but a good person with temporary, malleable habits that are causing you a lot of suffering. And then,
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Most of us want to avoid emotions that make us feel vulnerable, so we’ll do almost anything to get away from them.