Do you want to learn who you are? Learn your story. Do you want to learn your story? Start looking at what’s happening in you emotionally. A good place to begin connecting the dots is your past. As you uncover more and more of the truth of who you are, it will unleash desires within you so that you can figure out what you want to do in the world

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Another good way to start practicing paying attention to your own needs is noticing when you are starting to feel “quietly” frustrated, resentful, angry, or upset about something. When you feel this tension, immediately get curious: Do I have an unspoken expectation or need I’m not expressing? Is there a request of someone else I’m not making that

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Similarly, to cross the cringe minefield, you need to have humility about the fact that your perception is distorted, right now. You simply cannot see the landscape of options in your life objectively. By default, you will ignore a path to your dreams if a personally perilous emotion—worthlessness, loneliness, imperfection—is along the way. If you... See more