Leading the Life You Want: Skills for Integrating Work and Life

This openness, coupled with a fearless quest for knowledge about himself,

You might make what researchers call an appreciative inquiry.Bring together a few people who can play a role in the realization of one of your goals.

a willingness to be agents in shaping their lives. The world beckons to each one of us, challenging us to ply our talents and carve our own paths. As the existential philosopher and psychiatrist Viktor Frankl discovered during his World War II concentration camp internment, it is our voluntary action, and not what we’re forced to do, that determine

The key question: What are you not doing that you could be doing to express what’s important to you? It could be something simple, such as spending time with friends, reading, or literally stopping to smell the flowers.

feeling that results from helping others. Hedonic well-being is the constant pursuit of immediate happiness.

Why did he do it? The new venture allowed him to apply his mastery to help causes closer to his core values. And as Bridgespan spread its wings—as

Successful people make it their business to be conscious of what and who matter most. Their actions flow from their values. They strive to do what they can to make things better for the people who depend on them and on whom they depend, in all the different parts of their lives.

In all of his talks, Tierney questions this conventional wisdom, arguing that there is bad overhead (say, paying for swank office space) and good overhead (such as investing in technology to track results). Tierney counsels philanthropists not to place restrictions on how their donation can be spent (Sheryl Sandberg, for one, heeded this sage advic

We don’t all have the same type of leadership skills, so figure out what your leadership skill set is, and be true to that.”

it isn’t always a matter of sacrificing one part for another.