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Landmark study on 11,196 couples pinpoints what dating apps get so wrong
Psychologists who study married couples,28 for instance, have found that the happiest spouses frequently mirror each other’s speaking styles. “The underlying mechanism that maintains closeness in marriage is symmetry,”
Charles Duhigg • Supercommunicators
A decent number of common interests, activities, and people-preferences. Otherwise a lot of what makes you ‘you’ will inevitably become a much smaller part of your life, and you and your life partner will struggle to find enjoyable ways to spend a free Saturday together.
waitbutwhy.com • How to Pick Your Life Partner - Part 2
What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility. —Leo Tolstoy, writer
Meg Jay • The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
The main reason most of the above types end up in unhappy relationships is that they’re consumed by a motivating force that doesn’t take into account the reality of what a life partnership is and what makes it a happy thing.
Tim Urban • How to Pick Your Life Partner
Mr Good Enough: The case for choosing a Real Man over holding out for Mr Perfect
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The social psychologist Eli Finkel, the director of the Relationships and Motivation Lab at Northwestern University, believes the future lies in using dyadic data, observing rather than predicting compatibility from an initial interaction. Non-conscious synchrony emerges when two people are interested in one another: within minutes, pupil dilation,
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