Metacognition might feel uncomfortable at times. It’s easy to write about what went well, regardless of the specifics that led to that success. It is more difficult to write about what went wrong. And it is even harder when, as is sometimes the case, we ourselves must take sole responsibility for why things didn’t go so well.

You learn to stop being violent to yourself in steps. The first step is to be mindful of the harm your inner criticism, busyness, and self-abuse do to you.