Came across this gem from the great Hanif Kureishi —
"One falls in love, and then learns, for the duration, that one is at the mercy of someone else's childhood."
And I thought: someone else’s childhood and also one’s own.
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When you love someone, I think the question that you ask is: can I help them be okay? Can I make their life better without ruining my own? What can I do to be there? To me, the heart of love is the acknowledgement that we have little control over how other people live and yet our fate is bound up with theirs. S is not the only person I feel that wa... See more
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I think Love is an extension of the self. When we love people we invite them to connect to part of our identity. Likewise we allow ourselves into theirs. To a Mother, her children are in part, like an extension of herself. One of the difficulties of parenthood (that I have observed) is to what extent one self-identifies with one’s children and to w
... See moreIf you're dating someone you're dating the universe too. You're dating their parents that made them anxiously avoidantly attached. You're dating the movie that taught them how to love. You're dating their exes that shaped them. You're dating the cumulative sum of all choices made through history. Love cannot be compartmentalised.
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