Saved by Alex Wittenberg and
It’s Your Friends Who Break Your Heart
Priorities shift, responsibilities grow, we make choices. I’m as big a culprit as any. I keep moving to new cities, unable to settle. I see photos of my friends’ kids, and they look so old, and I realize how much I’ve missed. I no longer share in all the biggest developments of their lives. Sending a text, making a call, video-chatting, double-tapp
... See moreEvan Puschak • Escape into Meaning: Essays on Superman, Public Benches, and Other Obsessions
The unhappy truth of the matter is that it is normal for friendships to fade, even under the best of circumstances. The real aberration is keeping them.
Jennifer Senior • It’s Your Friends Who Break Your Heart
Some social scientists and even philosophers suggest a different vision of friendship, in which friendship is conceived not as a ledger of emotional debits and credits but as an organic creation — an artwork — built by the friends themselves. Conceived in this way, friendships are not ranked or stratified along a bright line from BFF to near strang... See more
Lisa Miller • The Vexing Problem of the ‘Medium Friend’
... See more“What the moment brings: that forward-facing dimension of friendship, the knowledge that you will grow old, or apart, and that you may one day need each other in some presently unimaginable way. We learn as children that friendship is casual and transient. As a structure, it’s rife with imbalance, invisible tiers, pettiness, and insecurity, stretch
Often, there’s a desire to cling onto how we thought life should go, sometimes until it outweighs the reality of how it is going — what makes us happy, versus what we feel should; what is truly stimulating or fulfilling, versus what we’ve been told should be chased and sacrificed for. A question I ponder is: How do we untether ourselves from the pe... See more