It’s me. I’m the person you’re canceling on
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It’s me. I’m the person you’re canceling on
Myself and people my age have been trained under the illusion that we can effectively eliminate any and all friction from our lives. We can work from home, Amazon prime everything we need, swipe through a limitless array of mediocre dates, text our therapist, and have a person go to the grocery store for us when we don’t feel like it, all while con... See more
Rosie Spinks • The Friendship Problem
“Fewer people drink, the cost of living is high and everyone has a mountain of responsibilities, not to mention burnout and anxiety. Unless it’s a significant birthday or wedding, I’m not quite sure why one would agree to gather in the first place. These days I’ll take any excuse to cancel last-minute and it feels like self-care.”
Jedidajah Otte • ‘People feel they don’t owe anyone anything’: the rise in ‘flaking’ out of social plans
If Carr is right, modern technology’s always-open window to the outside world makes recharging much harder, leaving many people chronically depleted, a walking battery that is always stuck in the red zone. In a healthy world, people who spend lots of time alone would feel that ancient biological cue: I’m alone and sad; I should make some plans . Bu... See more
Derek Thompson • The Anti-Social Century
The subsequent arrival of portable computing and communication, in the form of laptops and smartphones, made this trend even worse, as the demand to demonstrate effort could now extend beyond the workday, following us home at night or to our kid’s soccer field on the weekend.
Cal Newport • Slow Productivity: The Lost Art of Accomplishment Without Burnout
It’s become clear that people sometimes become busy in order to feel important, but I mostly feel busy and guilty. I’ve tried reframing that reaction, replacing abject apologies (delays, after all, happen) with gratitude ( thank you so much for your patience ).
Anne Helen Petersen • The Right Kind of Busy
When it comes to our gatherings, far too many of us are that horrible person who never really breaks up with anyone but just stops calling.