(It’s Great To) Suck at Something

Learning how to suck at things without quitting is so important! Maybe it’s the most important thing. And for some of us, it takes a LOT to tolerate it. We need to be very very very very very kind to ourselves. We need to be giant strange superior babies inside the darkness of our stubborn heads.

“in the process of trying to attain a few moments of bliss,” Rinaldi explains, “I experience something else: patience and humility, definitely, but also freedom. Freedom to pursue the futile. And the freedom to suck without caring is revelatory.” Results aren’t everything. Indeed, they’d better not be, because results always come later—and later is... See more

I am someone who hates being bad at things, which is an inconvenient quality in a world where it takes a long time to get good at anything at all.

Unfortunately, sucking and failing over and over again is part of the learning process, no matter what we’re learning. But if we’re committed to protecting and pleasing and proving, then looking like a failure is a big no-no. If we’re committed to whatever glorious story we want to tell about ourselves — I’ve got my shit together, I’m in control, I

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There should be at least one thing in your life you enjoy despite being no good at it. This is your play time, which will keep you young. Never apologize for it.