Having moved into ritual space, he slows down his speed, gives grace to his movements, offers a bow to the King and Queen, pushes through no boundaries, offers no hostility, is there to be seen.

“Men have been depressed now for many years in their male and resplendent selves, depressed into dejection and almost abjection.

human self-esteem is a delicate matter, and not to be dismissed as infantile grandiosity.

Jung remarked that all successful requests to the psyche involve deals. The psyche likes to make deals.

A child has a mood—he or she wants to play, or stay in the room, or be loony. The grownups have bigger moods. The abusive, or depressed, or alcoholic, or workaholic, or crazy parent has an enormous mood, and it is the only mood that counts. The children and the other parent have to adapt to that big mood, serve it, cater to it, sacrifice their mood

only men can initiate men, as only women can initiate women. Women can change the embryo to a boy, but only men can change the boy to a man. Initiators say that boys need a second birth, this time a birth from men.

Each child lives deep inside his or her own psychic house, or soul castle, and the child deserves the right of sovereignty inside that house. Whenever a parent ignores the child’s sovereignty, and invades, the child feels not only anger, but shame.

Each father inherits thousands of years of cunning and elaborate fatherhood. An apparently weak father can control the entire family from beneath with his silences.

The Destructive Father does not give energy to those in his family but draws it out of them into some black hole he shelters in himself. He draws it out steadily, as the great tyrants we know of draw it from their citizens.